Pandemic & Failure of Leadership: Lethal Mix

It didn’t have to be this way. Justified fear is a way of life now, afraid to go anywhere or be near anyone. An invisible invading army crossed our shores and the impeached President tried to wish it away and pass responsibility on to the states when a federal response was crucial and the only way to curtail the virus to keep Americans safe. More than 175,000 Americans are dead now, and the number is still growing daily, due to the poor handling of the Coronavirus. A national masking mandate, coordinated PPE procurement and distribution, and the development and implementation of rapid testing and tracing needed to be put in place as soon as the virus was reported. There was a written plan on the shelf and all he needed to say was “go.” So simple, but ignorance won out!

Our system of checks and balances failed us. Apparently, there are no qualifications to be president of the United States, you just have to fool enough people into voting for you. How can ONE unqualified person keep the richest most technologically advanced country in the world from stopping this deadly virus? The CDC, the experts, should have been automatically deployed to stop the spread. There are three EQUAL branches of government in our democracy. This should not have been the decision of one person! The executive branch has become too powerful and needs to be checked so that their shortcomings don’t result in the deaths of hundreds of thousands of Americans. “I alone can fix it” is the BIGGEST lie impeached President Trump ever utter, it was definitely the most deadly!

The complicit Republican senators, Fox News and other right wing media have blood on their hands as they looked the other way and outright lied to keep this corrupt, inept, impeached President from being removed from office while downplaying the deadly dangers posed by COVID-19. On election night 2016, I had an overwhelming sense of doom and gloom, but I never imagined that it could be this bad or this deadly! I really believed or hoped that our systems, structures and institutions would protect us from a single destructive individual, but they did not!

American Democracy is Currently a Victim of Family Dysfunction

The Republican Party in its current form has become the identified patient that has emerged from our family crucible (Napier and Whitaker). Our family includes Republicans, Democrats, Independents and everyone in between.

Dysfunction is part of all families. What is concerning is the degree of dysfunction. In the beginning, I didn’t understand the rage and anger coming from the right. I realize that some people are unsettled by the cultural and economic changes we’ve been experiencing, but am baffled by the extreme reaction. Combativeness rather than cooperation and compromise.

When I look back at the beginnings and continuation of this grievance mentality, I find Newt Gingrich, Roger Aisles, Rush Limbaugh and Donald Trump. After reading accounts of their childhoods, I found a common thread of family dysfunction of a relatively high degree. Collectively, they experienced physical and/or emotional abandonment, and emotional abuse.

These types of childhood experiences can lead to adults with Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) with the following potential characteristics:

  • Lack of empathy
  • Struggles with relationships
  • Promiscuity
  • Self-serving and un-remorseful
  • Power grabbing
  • Complete disregard for others
  • Complete disregard for right and wrong
  • Complete disregard for truth, fairness, the law
  • Complete disregard for consequences of their actions
  • Blame others for their shortcomings
  • Arrogance, feeling their above everyone else
  • Verbally abusive and overly critical
  • Not properly socialized, have not internalized societal norms
  • Don’t know how to be a member of community
  • Manipulative
  • Impulsive
  • Fear being vulnerable
  • See life as a zero-sum game
  • Refusing to back down even when it’s self-defeating
  • Ruthless, uncaring
  • Can’t effectively communicate emotions
  • Fragile egos
  • Materialistic and focused on the pursuit of wealth
  • And don’t know they have it

Newt Gingrich brought these characteristics to congress, Roger Aisles to cable news through the creation of Fox News, Rush Limbaugh to right wing AM radio and Donald Trump to the White House collectively spreading this dysfunction throughout our country.

It’s not just a Republican thing, it’s an American thing as we’ve become more accepting of this kind of behavior. A pronounced focus on money seems to be the culprit. Since “…there is no paid family leave after the birth of a child. …family attention tends to be on making money, which is known to make people self-centered. Today, even wealthy families don’t understand what young children need and are not providing the evolved nest that babies need for developing their full human capacities.” Why Are (Some) Males’ Egos So Fragile? by Daricia F. Narvaez Ph.D.

Even though the Trump Republicans are the identified patient of American dysfunction right now, we all need to work to return to normalcy. When the therapist finds the identified patient, the entire family comes in for counseling.

We have to stop accepting this dysfunctional behavior, especially in our leaders. Many see this behavior as strong and decisive. It is not. It is destructive. Being mean and uncaring is not manly, it’s selfish like a spoiled child. We need to insist on leaders with an evolved emotional intelligence. Selfishness and greed has become our national character leaving little room for compassion and true servant leadership. This dysfunctional behavior is dominating the airwaves and politics. We need to focus on becoming fully human. We need to do unto others as we would have them do unto us and to love our neighbor as ourself.

Being strong is not crushing something even though you can…

Still Defiant… over 160,000 dead…

Impeached President Trump held what was supposed to be a press conference at his Bedminster Golf Resort in New Jersey yesterday.  But he un-cleverly allowed club members to saunter in, drinks in hand, some with masks some without, to turn it into a tiny political rally. When reporters questioned that not wearing a mask indoors was breaking New Jersey law, Trump gave some vague excuse that political events were exempt from that law. Sadly, the club members broke out in triumphant cheers of defiance. The Trump Virus is winning again…

You’re an Expendable Pawn in a Political Game

Why is the greatest, richest, smartest and most powerful nation in the world being devastated by a virus that other countries are able to contain?

We have no, essentially needed, national testing and tracing plan to effectively contain and kill off COVID-19 which has so far taken over 150,000 American lives. Why?

The Trump administration did not implement a national testing and tracing plan “…because the virus had hit blue states hardest, ….and would not make sense politically… The political folks believed that because it was going to be relegated to Democratic states, that they could blame those governors, and that would be an effective political strategy” from How Jared Kushner’s Secret Testing Plan ‘Went Poof Into Thin Air’ by Katherine Eban Eban further states that the Trump administration has a determined disinterest in big federal action and was trying to block any new funding for testing and tracing.

We are facing the worst health crisis in 100 years and have everything we need to stop it, but we are not because Donald Trump is using it as a re-election strategy. Americans have sacrificed socially, educationally, financially and with their lives and the lives of their loved ones, yet we are worse off and facing a bigger spike in the fall. This failure of true leadership has allowed this Trump virus to devastate our country and our lives.

For those who hate big government this is what a little, feckless government looks like when a life threatening problem occurs that only a strong federal response can resolve. Devastation!

The problem with let the blue states fend for themselves is that COVID doesn’t recognize state colors or lines. This is a national crisis that requires a national response and impeached President Trump has failed all of us, red or blue. Vote to not be used as a pawn!